Thoughts
The Parts of Myself I Changed to Fit In
I used to think adapting was a strength. Then I started noticing how often adjusting meant editing myself — and how easy it was to confuse acceptance with belonging.
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Essays on
Womanhood
Essays on becoming, softness, self-worth, and the quiet work of learning who you are as a woman, without shrinking to fit.
17 essays
Healing
I Am No Longer Waiting to Become Her
For a long time, I imagined the woman I wanted to become as someone waiting for me in the future. She was confident. She knew what she wanted. But I kept moving the finish line further away.
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Healing
The Woman I'm Slowly Becoming
Growth doesn't always arrive with a celebration. Sometimes it arrives so quietly that you only notice it when you look back.
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Thoughts
There is a difference between fighting for love and forcing it
Love should not feel like a guessing game. Fighting for love means both people are choosing each other. Forcing it means you are trying to convince someone to choose you. That is where the pain begins.
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Reflections
The black coffee rule
For a long time, I took my coffee with a little bit of everything.. until one morning, I poured it black.
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Healing
I'm learning to exist without performing
I spent so long curating how I showed up that I forgot what it felt like to just.. be.
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Life
This is the season I stopped shrinking
For years, I made myself smaller.. smaller opinions, smaller needs, smaller presence.
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Healing
Gratitude for the version of me who kept going
I don't say this to her enough.. the version of me who woke up on the hardest mornings and still showed up.
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Thoughts
I don't need to prove I've changed
There was a time when I wanted everyone to see my growth.. as if growth only mattered when someone acknowledged it.
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Healing
I'm no longer the version they remember
Some people still see the old me when they look at me.. the one who apologized too much.
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Thoughts
Softness is not weakness
Somewhere along the way, I learned to harden.. to mistake sharpness for strength.
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Life
Allowing myself to enjoy things without guilt
I caught myself smiling the other day.. genuinely, without thinking.
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Healing
The people who stay don't need convincing
I used to exhaust myself trying to keep people close.. explaining, adjusting, dimming.
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Thoughts
I'm starting to feel at home in my own company
There was a time when being alone felt like something was missing..
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Healing
This version of me feels unfamiliar, and that's okay
Lately, I've been meeting a version of myself I don't fully recognize....
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Life
Welcoming 2026 with an open heart
Closing old chapters, opening new beginnings....
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Thoughts
The Version of Me that Only Appears at 2 AM
There's honesty that only comes out at 2 AM, when the world is asleep and you're left with nothing but your thoughts and the soft glow of a bedside lamp...
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